Nan luvver, I agree so completely with your sentiments. I have to correct you out of deference to him, it was TerryW who coined those wise words about friends you have yet to meet. But we both so obviously agree.
Jen and me just relate to anyone who wants to. If it emerges they are on the forum then so be it.
But if I recognise someone from their pic (eg a house, a foot in the pebbles, a car, a toddler, a cartoon, a hedgehog) I just go up and say "are you on the arillas forum?"
I haven't been arrested yet for soliciting a 4x4....
Phil